Each of us vibrate at a given frequency. Not so much a physical vibration but an emotional and spiritual vibration.

We seek others who vibrate at similar and harmonious frequencies.

Imagine a melody standing alone. It’s a wonderful thing and a beautiful sound on its own. Birds do it, and some of the best acapella arrangements specialize in this.

But imagine that melody with other sounds that harmonize with it. Like a rope made of separate strands, or cords, the result is stronger than each sound on its own.

Playing two keys on a piano that are right next to each other yields a terrible sound. Continuing up and down the keyboard doing this – even when one of the sounds is of a melody we’ve enjoyed before – makes that melody unlistenable.

So it is with our relationships.

Does this mean a disharmonious relationship is doomed?

Not necessarily.

Vocal coaches and outstanding producers teach and guide musicians to alter their skill set to become better at their craft. So do personal counselors when dealing with family matters.

The key to success though is the willingness of those being coached.

Some of us have played and practiced and coached ourselves and our partners to the point of near madness.

We have found the value of stillness and the sound of a lone instrument playing in the wind. It is quite peaceful.

PicsArt AI, “Lone person playing musical instrument”

I’ve been playing with an artificial intelligence software package by PicsArt. It’s been very useful for adding illustrations to my older posts that don’t have artwork on them.

To make an illustration, one just types in a text description of something to draw, selects the options to apply to it, and presses the “generate image” button to get some results. One can keep pressing the button or back up a page to select other options.

Like this:

It’s pretty cool.

Tonight I got the idea to put “AI” in the text box and tell the ‘bot to draw itself. I randomized the options every so often and captured the results.

Please enjoy PicsArt AI looking at itself in the mirror.

 

Today’s just be thought is on allowing ourselves time to recover from pain.

Not just recovery from the type of thing one would expect – financial losses, failed relationships, tragic events.

No, we are all recovering from our childhoods.

Regardless of our upbringing, the transition into our adult selves is traumatic to each of us. And terribly personal.

Even our very first act in this world is a cry of desperation, confusion, fear. It is a cry for help.

For some of us who are blessed enough to find another who is recovering at the same level and rate as ourselves, cherish that blessing. Many struggle with that.

We must be kind to ourselves and others as we recognize our own struggles through these childhood transitions. Many are not willing to pass through these gates as they know deep inside that each gate represents a loss and a pain they don’t want to manage.

Let childhood go.

We can still embrace life with childlike eyes and hearts.

But we must let the childish desires and actions be. We must let go those who have intentionally or unintentionally harmed us when we were young.

The sooner we do that, the more quickly we start recovering.

Today’s just be thought is on quiet persistence. Sometimes it tough to find what we need to find peace in our lives. Especially when we don’t know what it is we seek. Keep seeking.

Kotaro (crying): I’m sorry if I bothered you by ringing your doorbell all the time.

Neighbor: Go on. You keep ringing all the doorbells of as many houses you can find.

Kotaro: Hmmm?

Neighbor: Not everyone will be happy about it, and some people might not answer at all. But don’t worry about them.

Neighbor (continues): You keep at it. Keep ringing doorbells until you find what you’re looking for.

PicsArt AI, “Doorbells”

Never underestimate the power of humility.

I’d rather engage with someone who admits their failings and is willing to learn from them than someone who hides their mistakes in order to maintain their expert status.

I’ve learned that yes, sometimes the light at the end of the tunnel does come from an oncoming train.

But that’s ok when you’ve developed a knack for jumping on things.

Ride that train to victory! Or find a suitable place to hop off if victory isn’t on the schedule for the day.

Also here’s a deep thought

We have to look deep in the darkest part of our persona to overcome our biggest issues because that’s where we store those issues when we don’t want to deal with them

It’s not my idea but is a good one!

I need to stop using my deductive reasoning power for evil

A colleague was telling me about a video chat session he hosts on the weekends. The team talk about conspiracy facts and fallacies and facts. He was telling me about the federal govt’s involvement in illegal body part harvesting.

“And that’s not all,” he continued, as his thought train gathered steam, “last weekend we featured people whose family members were held hostage by the medical field during the Covid pandemic lockdowns.”

He started getting more animated. “The stories were horrifying. People were given medication against their will while they were sleeping. Many died while the pharmacological companies made money off the doses. And even for those who weren’t given medication, they were put on respirators knowing they didn’t offer help. They died for nothing.”

I tied the threads together.

“And how many who died unnecessarily were organ donors?”

I could see the thought train detailing.

“Ah! I hadn’t even thought of that!”

I nodded my head. “Things don’t happen by accident. Maybe you’ve another topic for a future session?”

PicsArt AI, “Suspicious medical agents”

Here’s my poem for That Fella. I haven’t looked at yours in detail yet

Roses are red
Violence is blue
You hurt my daughter
I come after u

PicsArt AI, “Threatening man wearing a hat walking away in a city street”

I’m watching a new TV series and the sum of some of the most memorable moments of my personal history are nearly summed up in one parenthetical phrase:

(80s music plays)

It’s kinda like that, isn’t it?

A decade of memorable moments tied up in a single sentence.

Makes one wonder how future historians will look back at the big items of today:

(2020s news in the background)

Rushing into the future, one decade at a time.

https://flic.kr/p/5DFXnV

Haha I remember a learning lesson from my 10th grade English class. I’d developed a great relationship with the teacher and she considered me one of the class leaders with regards to discussion contributions. Thankfully my standard jokey style worked well with her personality. Her name at the time was Ms. Warren.

I’d just finished re-reading the book, “Watership Down” for like the 5th time, and the concept of a rabbit den, or rabbit hole, aka a “warren” was fresh in my mind.

So me being jokey, and with my aspergerian-style mindset, and with this story freshly in mind, I naturally had a momentary brilliant idea as we walked into the classroom one day.

“Hi Ms. Rabbit-Hole!” I casually shouted at her when I saw her.

Her look of shock and the realization I’d tripped over one of the largest faux-pas I’ve ever created for myself to date really got my attention. It took a bit of time to sort this out, haha.

I’m still recovering from this 😀

PicsArt AI, “Five Rabbits”

 

Today is a day filled with blessings and adventure.

Of course, it’s how one looks at things.

A few weeks ago my dying truck refused to stay running in cold weather. Stupid thing. I bought a second vehicle and wouldn’t you know it, I got a crack in the windshield by a flying rock on day #2 of driving in to the office. That’s what happens when we start pressuring folks back into the office instead of letting them work comfortably at home.

I had to walk over a mile in 30-something degree weather to get to a food place just now. That’s because the auto dealership I went to today is making me wait 4 hours instead of the 1.5 hours they originally promised. And their vending machine has nothing but junk food. What a day. What else can go wrong?

…OR THIS…

I am blessed to have had a vehicle that has been faithfully taking me to work and pleasure spots for well over a decade now. The poor little guy needs help and I need to have a backup vehicle. Thankfully I have set aside cash and have the opportunity to purchase a second vehicle, and still have cash to have repair work done on the ol’ gorilla.

I can purchase a second vehicle because I’m employed. My employer has generosity allowed me the opportunity to work from home for months. Still, my team members whom I really like are excited to see all of us in person. I’m blessed to know and work with people who genuinely enjoy each other. Earning money at a company with people I enjoy being with is wonderful.

On the way to work in my new vehicle a rock smacked the windshield and a crack developed. I’ve been on this drive often enough to have seen some of the worst auto accidents ever. If a whack to the windshield is the worst I’ll ever encounter on the commute then I’m truly a blessed man. The crack is large enough to warrant a new windshield. Ah well.

There’s an auto dealership near me that can replace the windshield at a much lower cost than some of the alternatives. They’re very popular and busy so the original time estimate for the work they’ll do is a little longer than planned. Still, it’ll be ready the same day I brought it in. That is very nice. I can’t imagine how long it would take me to purchase, pick up, and replace the broken windshield with a new one on my own in my front yard! I can wait a little while longer than planned.

Because it’s a sunny day and I have a couple extra hours to spare I have decided to walk to a nearly food place. The walk isn’t terribly bad – barely over a mile – and walking therapy is always a good thing. It’s really nice that the temp is cool enough to make that walk without breaking a sweat. It’s not often that we get nice walking weather in southeast Texas so I’ll jump on this opportunity!

It’s going to be a great day.

PicsArt AI, “Two Blue birds sitting on a tree branch”

I hate it when people at the grocery store make me cry.

Also, those who proclaim our modern day society is deeply divided by race and gender issues aren’t paying attention.

I saw an encounter this morning that crosses culture boundaries and sheds light on the Hope that awaits at the bottom of our social Pandora’s box.

In front of me at the checkout line was a very old man in a mobility scooter. He had the basket on it in front of him filled pretty high. The family in front of him had a fair number of items. I settled in and prepared to wait. I had ice cream and frozen pizza silently thawing out in my cart but sometimes getting worked up over small stuff isn’t worth the effort.

As I waited, I noticed the head of the family two spots ahead of me. She looked angry as did her daughter. Meh. Who knows why.

The gent in front of me looked around him a little shakily. I followed his gaze and saw a magazine with Betty White on it and the congratulations on her 100th birthday. I immediately thought of the meme showing her being sad because she could no longer play with Legos as they are rated ages 3 to 99. That was funny. I wondered what he thought of Betty White, if he thought of her at all.

The family had finished putting things on the belt and were getting ready to pay. The daughter noticed the old man’s basket hadn’t been unloaded on the belt, as he couldn’t reach the items in the cart. She asked him if she could unload his cart for him onto the belt. He said, “no, the cashier can do it”. She gently insisted and he said ok.

The momma saw this happening and waved her daughter over to start the payment process. “No, hun, you go on. I got this.”

It was at this point I started to tear up. Public crowds are my kryptonite. My social anxiety makeup is such that too much exposure to people in crowds overwhelms me. I was already saturated with others’ emotions and stories and this tipped the cup for me.

I kept as best a straight face as I could by mama looked over at me. I barely could make a smile as our eyes met and I wiped my eyes. This unexpected kindness there me for a loop. She nodded and smiled to the gent and made small talk as she went about her business of helping him. He had some packages of steak. I know this because the lady asked him how he like it prepared. She no longer looked angry as she helped him.

The cashier was ringing up his items as this went on, and then she was done.

The old man carefully started to extract himself out of the scooter to pull out his wallet with his shaky hands. Before he could finish, the cashier stopped him.

“Sir,” said the cashier, “your groceries are paid for.”

He was confused.

“The lady in front of you paid for your groceries.” She smiled at him.

“But,” he asked, “why did she do that?”

“I dunno,” replied the cashier, “maybe she wanted to to have a merry Christmas and a happy new year.”

He completed the event of standing up and said, “No, I gotta pay it. I have to pay her back somehow.”

The lady who’d helped the man saw his quiet stubbornness, as she and the family had stayed back to make sure all was well with the transaction. She stepped up to rescue the cashier.

“No, hun,” she said, just like before, “you go on. I got this. Where are you parked? We’ll get those groceries in your car.” And off they went.

These stories are everywhere. We just need eyes to see them and ears to hear them.

And sometimes, hearts to live them.

Today’s Just Be Thought

If someone is changing his or her life choices for the better, and to align with your positive goals and vision, that person isn’t sacrificing anything.

Sacrifice done under the idea of coercion leads to resentment, which left unattended, turns to bitterness and eventually derision and scorn.

If someone is moving in a better direction by dropping bad habits or altering his or her lifestyle to prepare to head in a more fulfilling life, the change isn’t sacrifice.

The change may be painful and scary and inconvenient, but it is not a sacrifice

Learning to walk, learning to run, learning to ride a bike, learning to let go of the symbolic millstones that threaten to drown us as we learn to swim in the current of life are never sacrifices. They are part of a satisfying life.

PicsArt AI, “Planet shining in the sky above the stormy sea”

If you can observe it, you can measure it.

If you can measure it, you can predict it.

If you can predict it, you can control it.

If you can control it, you can fix it.

Well, most of the time.

Today’s Just Be Thought is about gratitude. Here are a couple of quotes from those more wise than me:

“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.” – Brene Brown

“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” – Meister Eckhart

PicsArt AI, “Gratitude”

Today I saw the most unusual behavior. Well, it seemed unusual until I saw the story all the way through to the end.

I was sitting in the parking lot of a local fast food place. I don’t like to drive and eat, as I prefer to concentrate on one or the other.

I’m old-fashioned that way.

From the doorway of the restaurant came three people: a woman carrying a toddler, and a man.

The man came out of the door after the other two as they walked past some vehicles to get to their auto. As the man passed a pickup truck, he casually placed his empty drink cup on the bed cover of the truck, and quickly scurried to catch up with his partner. She didn’t notice him leaving his trash on another person’s vehicle.

He did notice me noticing this as our eyes met. He didn’t react but quickly started seating the toddler into the car seat while his partner fiddled with things in the front of the car.

“Now,” I thought to myself, “what am I to do about this? Obviously the owner of the truck will wonder what happened here when he or she comes to see someone else’s trash poised prettily on the back of their vehicle. Or maybe the cup won’t be noticed and will fall off and litter the place.”

I don’t want to get involved in drama but also don’t want to just let something like this go.

Fortunately patience came to the rescue. As I waited and thought, the solution revealed itself.

After the man finished buckling up the toddler, he walked over to the driver’s side of the vehicle where his partner was waiting.

That’s when he kissed her goodbye, then walked over to his truck that he’d set his unfinished drink onto.

He took a sip from the cup I assumed was empty, got in his truck, and drove away.

Seeing is not always believing.

PicsArt AI, “Man with question mark over his head”