Today’s Just Be thought
Today’s thought is on kindness. Being “kind” is not being a “pushover”. It may seem like they are the same to someone who takes advantage of another, but they are really two different things.
When we are kind, truly kind as in considering another’s situation when making a decision, we actively seek changes that benefit us all. A pushover acts out of fear.
I can say from personal experience that fear in a relationship is never a good thing. The end result of these types of interactions may yield the same result, but the purpose behind them is much different.
Ultimately, the assertive kind person will positively influence others in ways that a fearful pushover cannot.
An fearful pushover person will likely say, “yes I will help you” and fume afterwards. No one really benefits from that.
An assertive kind person will likely say, “yes I will help you with that” so, but will take it to the next level by adding, “and next time, let’s work on [this] and [that] so you can do it on your own”.
By assertively and mindfully (and kindfully) sharing expectations for change, all benefit. Maybe not immediately. But a habit of this will ultimately yield results.
Here’s more info from a post that caused me to think about this: